What makes a bad person..

So today is my ex's birthday. And no, I will not be acknowledging this occasion any further than the previous statement.

But it did get me thinking. Upon my morning check of my facebook news feed, I noticed only one friend of his had posted a "happy birthday" note to his page, which gave me an immense feeling of accomplishment, as if somehow, in the ex-relationship war, I had won.

But won what exactly? and does it make me a bad person for enjoying the fact that he seems to have few friends acknowledging his special day?

I assume (and tell me if I'm wrong) that in most relationships, one person always comes out on top in their post-relationship life. You know how it is, one person moves on quicker than the other, gets a promotion at work, finds a new relationship, whilst the other person stays exactly where they were before the relationship began. Whilst I haven't been promoted, nor have I embarked on a new relationship, I do believe that I am in a happier place than my pre-relationship self was.

I love my life, my friends are the most amazing group of people you will ever meet, and I am content at work. So if this is the outcome of "winning" the war, then I would have to agree, yes I have won.

Or is it a case of women feel guilty when they succeed? You tell me..

And so it begins..

So having ended a two year relationship a few months ago, i felt it would be a good idea to start a blog. Now, i don't claim to be the next Candace Bushnall or Carrie Bradshaw (despite the URL..limited availability is a challenging thing..), but having now been on both sides of the relationship fence, i have had time to think about what we, as women, put ourselves through to achieve our deepest desires..but what exactly are our deepest desires?

In my experiences, it seems to be a case of the grass is always greener in the other girls life. When we are single, we spend the best part of our waking lives trying to find a significant other, but when in a relationship, we think of all the fun and craziness of our single lives.

So why is it that we crave what we don't have? Is it human nature? or is it simply wanting the best of both worlds?

Personally, i love things about both entities. Although currently I think single is winning this round. Being single allows people, or should I say me, to be who they really are. Now, before i get thousands of disagreements saying that relationships allow you to be who you are with one person, I believe, that devoting yourself to one person sucks the life out of all your social circles outside of your relationship. Few women that i know have found the perfect relationship/life balance.

So the question is, are both parties of the relationship responsible for such neglect on one or both peoples lives? after all, both parties had individual lives before finding each other, and given that most relationships don't turn into marriage, they will both have individual lives after the relationship has ended, wouldn't we be wise to invest more time into our existing lives, rather than our relationships?

I guess all this questioning has come with the realization that I have reached the "grey" area of my life. At the tender age of 21, I am no longer a teen, and therefore no longer "irresponsible", but still, not being mid 20's, not old enough to be taken seriously, thus the reasoning behind the title of this blog.

Hell hath no fury like a woman who has just ended a long term relationship, and has no real idea of where she is in life..

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